A more meaningful and fulfilling relationship
Couple work focuses on the relationship between you and your partner so that you can:
- improve your couple’s communication style
- clarify the reasons and implications of conflicts in your couple
- find support during difficult times, such as an illness, a loss or a particular issue one of you (or both) might be facing
- bring awareness on behaviours, attitudes and assumptions you might have inadvertently fallen into
- explore how relating to your partner affects you, as well as the wider system around you (children, other family members etc.)
- understand and shift the patterns that might have become unhelpful or even toxic in your relationship
I have experience in working both with heterosexual and LGBTQ+ couples.
Couple sessions last 60 min. They are agreed with both partners and take place on the same day and time of the week.
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Partners generally attend the sessions together. Sometimes, it might be useful for each partner to have one or more individual sessions separately, in order to work on specific aspects with the view to integrate the material that has emerged in the individual session/s within the work as a couple.
The first two or three sessions generally involve an assessment of the circumstances that bring you, as a couple, to counselling, and we will discuss what you both expect from it. We will also see if and how we can work together, and I will give you some more information about my frame of practice. You are very welcome to ask any question you may have and share your first impressions.
- you and your partner don’t talk anymore
- you live like friends, not lovers
- you criticise and blame each other often/all the time
- you argue constantly
- you suffer from infertility problems that are affecting your couple
- you feel that your partner doesn’t listen to you, or you are aware that you are no longer able to listen to your partner
- you feel that your partner puts you down constantly, or you realise that you do this yourself
- you feel that your partner doesn’t take responsibility, or you feel unable to take responsibility yourself
- you want to split up, but your partner doesn’t (or vice-versa)
- you (or your partner) had an affair and you don’t know if you want to stay together anymore
- you don’t know if you love him/her anymore
- your partner wants to have children but you don’t (or vice-versa)
- your partner works all the time and you rarely see each other
- you feel less important than her/his parents and family
- you often disagree on how to educate your children
- How do you dialogue verbally and emotionally?
- How do you share your preoccupations?
- What are the implicit and explicit assumptions in your couple?
- How do you resolve conflicts or problems?
- What are the meanings, beliefs and values that you and your partner bring into your relationship?
- What are your mutual expectations, both towards yourself and the other person within the relationship?
- How do you relate to sexuality?
- How did your family of origin influence your way of being with each other?
- Which past relationships inform your mutual interactions today?